Through most of my life I have experienced the power for having supporting friends – I do have many friends – but keep a small close knit support structure whom I know I can count on. As my girls grow, I become more aware of the friends, association and company they keep, as times are quickly changing even young children are affected by negative association. No one is either too young or too old to experience the true power of positive association.

Have you ever had a conversation with someone that left you feeling drained and exhausted, not physically but just emotionally spent? Whereas on the other hand you may be having an exhausting day and then connect with someone who just adds laughter and a special sparkle to your day, this person makes you feel lighter and alive. These scenarios are just basic and simple reflections on how the company you keep, or rather those you associate with can have either a negative or positive effect on your consciousness and outlook on life.

We often emphasise the need to maintain good physical health, but the need for mental well-being is equally vital. With that comes the need to grow within our relationships and the definite need to keep close to people who allow you to grow and thrive – who celebrate your achievements and not put you down. The analogy of looking at the glass half empty instead of half full is that of pessimism (looking at situations negatively). When I am in a difficult situation, I always try to look at how the situation could have been worse and then somehow there is automatic gratitude for the current situation, even if it is a difficult one. When we share these difficult times with people who are close to us, we need to be able to seek comfort in knowing that a listening ear will make a positive difference and at the end of the conversation you will feel better than you did earlier. Be mindful of this the next time you engage with your circle of those close to you. Silently identify those who make you feel good about yourself, the people who will listen (if nothing else) and who shows genuine care. Thereafter cautiously weed out those who are polluting your mind through a pessimistic attitude.

Association is so important, aspire to keep the company of those who lift you up and share in your joy. As much as you may offer friendship, be sure that you are also surrounded by friends who are real. Rather have a few friends who are genuine than countless that are fake. This is another important point, as I have learnt to identify those who smile genuinely and ask how I am doing in a true way of care rather than those whom are just curious to know more. Our intuition will allow us to choose our connections wisely, and tap into this positive circle to grow personally.

Focus on giving back to those whom give you love and support, invest time and energy in this way. Dig up and toss away negative energy from your space. Go on, be courageous, and experience the upliftment that this brings along making a huge difference to your consciousness and confidence.

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